The Calm After the Storm

I must say I am proud of myself. It's not until shit gets hard until you realize exactly how strong you really are. I've had to make due with some fucked up situations the past 2 weeks. I'm happy to say that this time around I've reached the light at the end of the tunnel without even noticing how close it was. Satisfaction... I 've come out on top maybe bruised or bent but NEVER BROKEN

Depressed...

Depressed! I feel like I've been sucked to my core & I have absolutly nothing left to give. In my plexiglass case of emotion & can't break out. I don't know what to do anymore & I give up. It's hurts feelin like no one can careless & you know what.. I'm begining to careless myself. The 1's that I care about leave & the 1's I can't stand stay. They say it's gets greater later, I wonder when later is.. when I'm dead?

Disappointed!!

Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy; the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.

Something to think about

If u ain't fucked ya guy/girl in a week or so, they're fuckin someone else! If they don't call u like they used to, they're not interested, if they don't go hard like once upon a time, they're tired of being hurt and played! While u out there doing u, someone is with them comforting them, while u down him/her, someone is uplifting them, while u can care less about his/her feelings or problems, someone is out there consoling them, and value his/her feelings! Grow up and be a man/woman not a lil boy/girl please, before that someone steals ya guy/girl!......

Something To Think About: BE YOURSELF

Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation. We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves. Learn to be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not. Everything isn't for everybody. What works for 1 may not work for the other. Just be the best YOU that you can be. How can people really appreciate & love you if they don't know who YOU really are?

Just a sidebar, but as I was typing this I got a flash in my head from the movie "Just Friends." If you haven't seen it you should it's a good movie. But what was going through my head was the scene when Chris, played by Ryan Reynolds, is looking for his ice skates & he calls his mom to see if she knows where they are. Chris tell his mom he’s looking for his skates because he wanted to show his H.S. crush Jamie, played by Amy Smart, how good at ice skating he got & the mother tells him he should be himself. She then goes off singing "Be Yourself!, Be Yourself!, Be Yourself!"

Better yet I found the video.. check it out below.. LOL!

What is it about gay hookup sites?

What is it about gay hookup sites that give guys the same courage to speak up & holla at someone the way that liquor or substances do for most?

Shake Them Haters Off!

SHAKE THEM HATERS OFF!

A hater is someone that is jealous and envious and spends all their time

Trying to make you look small, so they can look tall. They are very

Negative people. Nothing is ever good enough!



When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters... That's

Why you have to be careful who you share your blessings and your dreams

With because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed... It's dangerous

To be like someone else... If God wanted you to be like somebody else.

He would have given you what He gave them.



You don't know what people have gone through to get what they have...

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't

Know my story... If the grass looks greener on the other side of the

Fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too.

We've all got some haters among us!

Some people don't like it that you can:

-Have a relationship with God

-Light up a room when you walk in

-Start your own business

-Tell a man/woman to get lost (if they aren’t about the right thing)

-Raise children without both parents being around & not ask for a dime from anyone

-Haters don't want to see you happy

-Haters don't want to see you succeed

-Haters don't want you to get the Victory

You can handle your haters by:

--Knowing who you are and who your true friends are

--Having a purpose to your life

--By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human

Manipulation.

Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be

Unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called

You to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.

Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when it's your

Time to leave this earth, you want to be able to say, I've lived my life

And full-filled my dreams ... I'm ready to go HOME! Only the Strong

Survive



When God gives you a favor, you can tell your haters, "Don't look at

Me...Look at who is in charge of me..."

Watch out for Haters...........BUT most of all don't become a HATER Yourself!

** Please Note **   I Did Not Write This.. But I Love IT!!!!!

~*~ Value Of Friends ~*~

It is a difficult time sometimes to come to the rational that some people in your life have no "value" to give! 


Now, when I say value and I am not talking about assets, bank accounts, money, cars, house, apartment... I mean to take the time and really look at how much value a person can provide is a difficult yet "eye opening" situation.   It always amazes me how fast you can let someone walk out of your life.  Well there is a saying that fast as you come is fast as you go!  Nevertheless it is a person’s value that should determine how fast he/she can leave. 

What happens when you value more to a person than they value to you? I believe that there comes a point where we have to look at the value of all the people that we deal with on a weekly, daily, month and hourly basis.  After looking at who adds value to your life then you can look at the people who do not any value and realize that it is not their value that you are looking at but more so their immediate satisfaction of being apart of your life.   Every one that is apart of your life is not necessarily there for value but more so for a season or reason! 

Look at your list of friends and mates and see how much value do they really have in my life... Some of the nuances of life that we experience can be avoided because we are giving someone who has no value in our life the placement of someone who has longivity and value....  An associate can not be a friend because a friend’s value is more than an associate or aquantiance can ever be!  Know your value to someone and make sure you know the value of your peers to you.... Just a food for thought!

How Many Faces Would Someone Say That You Have?

How many faces would someone say that you have?

I am perplexed at times because I often take time to look at myself in the mirror and say how many faces would someone say I have! It is just something that makes me think from time to time. I try to keep it real and I definitely try to be seriously real and truthful with the people who I call "my peeps"....  In life we all have to have someone or peeps that we can remove the masks of the many faces we portray and be real wit!  I do not see the purpose of calling someone friend, brother, sister, cuz or companion if you can not keep it real with them...   MESS is something that creates itself in a relationship (whether it be friendship, or a partner relationship) when the bond between you and the next person is not kept true and one of you have put on a face that should not be there...

If you are my friend and I am yours then I am going to be real with you and keep the faces out of who we are to one another... REALNESS, lets keep it that way because you can not be close to someone if you are not real with them. I believe that there is a certain level of realness that should come from your closer relationships with someone. If you knew me for years then you should be a support of me... well "should" is the word and sometimes we have to look at ourselves before we start to evaluate whether or not someone is being themselves or have a face on! 

My friends know that if I call you friend then that means I love you regardless of the situations that may arise.... BUT... if I call you friend I expect that you are going to tell me the real deal and not the face that you put on with others to make it seem like "A" when it is really "B".  It astonishes me how people can throw lies so much to the point that when he/she opens their mouth the first thought that you have is which lie are they going to tell today!  LOL 

That brings me to the face called "center of attention"...  Do you always have to be the center of attention? Albeit, I am the type of person that does not mind working in the background I am yet still at times brought to the center of attention... NOT because of who I am or what I know but because of what I do... Some of the church people’s know that is called being "blessed" and what you sow in silence...God rewards openly! 

Nevertheless, my point is remove the faces that we carry sometimes and show people the real you. It is appreciated more when getting to know you. No one is perfect and no one has all of their stuff in perfect order. So if you want to be valued by your love ones, colleagues, friends and associates... Be true to yourself by being true to them! Take off the faces of life, the faces of living in the past and not for the present or future, the faces of lies, deception and confusion, the faces of false pretenses and disrespect... Be yourself because when you are yourself … that’s really "A GOOD LOOK!"

 
*** Please Note *** I did not write this. I came across it and it hit home for me especially after these past couple of years with me weeding out my true friends and all. I hope this strikes a nerve in others the same way it did me.

Something To Think About...

Somebody posted this on facebook & it sooo fit how I've been feeling.. I'm sure EVERYONE could relate to this...

I might not be the most beautiful, nor do I have the perfect body... I might not be your choice... But I am a GREAT choice... I do not pretend to be someone else b/c I am too GOOD at being ME... I might not be proud of some of the things I've done... But I am proud of who I am today... Take me as I am... or watch me as I go!..

Something to think about

Every act of conscious learning requires the willingness to suffer an injury to one's self-esteem. That is why young children, before they are aware of their own self-importance, learn so easily.

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Confused...

IDK if he knows how I really feel. IDK if he even cares. What I do know is that I'm not going to loose myself behind another dude, never again. I have a lot on my mind and need to make some choices before the weekend is out. The only thing I can do is pray & follow my heart. Only problem is what if my heart goes aganist my god given instincts that I've learned to embrace? What if my mind is playing tricks on me to sabotage something good? I have many questions I need answered. the most important one is, Do you really care for me the way you say you do?

Saggin Pants

Letter from a college student

The other day, a friend of mine visited me in the lobby of my dorm just
to chat while her laundry was drying. As we were chatting, two young
freshmen came by. One of the boys wanted to 'talk' to my friend (as in
date). She asked him how old they were, and both of the boys replied
18. My friend and I both laughed hysterically because we are both 22
years old. After my friend left, the young men were still hanging
around and one wanted to know how he could gain her interest.

The first thing I told him to do was to pull up his pants! He asked
why, and then said he liked saggin' his pants. I told him to come over
to my computer and spell the word saggin'. Then I told him to write
the word saggin' backwards.

S-A-G-G-I-N = N-I-G-G-A-S

I told him the origin of that look was from centuries ago. It was the
intent of slave owners to demoralize the field workers by forbidding
them to wear a belt as they worked in the fields or at any other
rigorous job. In addition, men in prison wore their pants low when
they were 'spoken for'. The other reason their pants looked like that
was they were not allowed to have belts because prisoners were likely to
try to commit suicide. And, saggin' pants prevents you from running.

We as young Black people have to be the ones to effect change. We are
dying. The media has made a mockery of the Black American. Even our
brothers and sisters from Africa don't take us seriously. Something as
simple as pulling up your pants and standing with your head held high
could make the biggest difference in the world's perception of us. It
is time to do right by ourselves. We need to love and embrace each
other. No one is going to do that for us.

It all comes down to perception. What people perceive is what reality
to them is. We have to change not only the media's perception of us,
but we need to change our perception of ourselves.

Remember all eyes are on you Black Man. All eyes are on you Black
Woman. All eyes are on your Black Child. People point the finger at
us and expect us to engage in negative and illegal activities, to
manifest loud, boisterous behavior, to spend our hard earned money in
their stores, buying goods we don't need, or really want. We have
allowed not only the media, but the government and the world to portray
us as a 'sub-culture.' They have stripped our culture down to the
point where the image of Black people is perpetuated as rappers,
athletes, drug users, and consumers of junk food, expensive tennis
shoes, expensive cars, expensive TVs, cell phones and not investing in
homes for our families.


We are so much more!!!!!!!


To all our Black Men: It's time to stand up. There are billions of
Black Women who want to do nothing more than worship the ground that you
walk on. We are so in love with your potential. We want to have your
back, we want to love, support and cherish every ounce of your being.
But with that you have to show that you are willing to be the head of
our households. You have to prove yourselves worthy of our
submission. We need you to be hard working...Not a hustler. We need
you to seek higher education, to seek spirituality. We need you to
stand! And trust us; we will have your back. We know that it gets
hard. We know you get weary. Trust and believe that there is nothing
that a Black Man and a Black Woman can't handle with GOD on their side.


To all our Black Women: It is also time for you to stand up. It is
time for you to stop using our bodies as our primary form of
communication. It is time to be that virtuous woman that Proverbs
spoke of. You cannot sit by the wayside while our men are dying by the
masses. You are the epitome of Black Love and It starts within you.
You need to speak with conviction to let not only our Black Men know,
but the world, that you are the Mothers of this world. You are so
powerful. You are so beautiful. You need to love and embrace every
blessing God has given us physically, emotionally and spiritually.

For all our Black Children: We need to love them. We need to teach
them. We need to stand up for them. We need to protect them. We
need to show them that there are no 'get rich quick' schemes. We need
to tell them that they WILL die trying if they submit to a life of crime
and deceit. We need to teach our children that no one will love them
the way we can. And being a basketball player, a rapper, or a drug
dealer is not reality. It's not realistic and only a small percentage
of people ever make it as a rapper or professional athlete. We need to
teach our children that we can be more than rappers and athletes. We
can be the owners of these sports teams. We can be the CEO's of OUR
fortune 500 companies. We need to believe in literacy. I am almost
certain if we were to look back to the 1930's and 40's, the literacy
rates for Black American Children are probably still the same.
Please Keep This Going & Have a wonderful day

'This is the year of empowerment.' God will empower us to accomplish

things this year that will be mind blowing